Love.
How does one define that mystical term?
The Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English (International Students Edition) defines the word as: [U] a strong feeling of liking and caring for someone, while our favourite online encyclopedia Wikipedia states that love is a constellation of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness.
Indeed, the fabled L-word is based largely on the feelings both parties in the relationship have of each other. Without feelings, nothing "coupley" can be done. It's like trying to start a fire with a wet box of matches, damp kinder and a gale-force typhoon blowing in your face. Feelings are thus the fundamental building blocks for a relationship built on love, the nucleus of a seed atom which hopefully transpires into something new, exciting and rewarding.
Love, when it comes, arrives on a chariot driven by a quartet of prized steeds, each rivaling the winged horse Pegasus in terms of speed, agility and magnificence. It just slams into you, and before you can pick up your marbles and gather your bearings, you have already fallen too far into the quagmire of affection, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some people are afraid of such a commitment, and try ways and means to get out of such a situation. They forsake the feelings and opinion of the other party in the relationship, regardless of whether or not they have officially started in the first place. The onus is on the fact that both parties are bound by an invisible, implied and understood contract of obligation right from the get-go when their feelings and instincts take control. Afterall, all of us are hardwired to find our second halves. Such scenarios often result in one party being devastated to the core, some even reaching to the extent of self-destruction, self-mortification or self-hate. The power one party wields over the other is scary, rivaling or even superseding the power of parents or authority. It is thus wise to seek the opinion of the other party before jumping to conclusions and solutions, as the method may sound good to you, but it may not be appropriate for the situation at hand. The results may not be what you have envisioned.
I read an article by Sumiko Tan in the newspapers last night, or rather this morning. She was talking about love and marriage, and I have to say I agree with her to the letter. Love is not about sex, security or sleaze, its about companionship, having someone - a very best friend - by your side 24/7. Knowing that she loves you and you love her, it colors and brings joy to your life, something that cannot be achieved with computer games, comic books or MMORPGs. We are, afterall, human.
Sure the package of love comes with a bewildering plethora of assorted paraphernalia, some downbeat, and some activist. It ultimately boils down to how the individual uses that package for the benefit of both parties, and that same package can be used to both induce pain, and to create extreme pleasure for the two primary variables in the equation of love. Guys out there reading this, please, don’t hurt your girls anymore; they don’t deserve that sort of torture. Seek their opinion, get clearance before attempting anything dire, and do not, under any circumstance coerce her to do something which you know will ultimately obliterate you both. The specter of break-up is shadowy, evil and malevolent to the very core.
Indeed.
In sum, it takes two hands to clap, likewise in a love relationship, there has to be giving before taking can commence, and when that happens you will naturally feel great about it. Why? Well, how would you feel if the girl you love returns the favour of giving by interpreting it in her own way? It is a feeling that falls short of any description by mere words, but it can be roughly described with this statement: the person you love loves you back.
Love is a narrow two-way street, you have to put yourselves into each other’s hands to make it to the end.
How does one define that mystical term?
The Longman Dictionary of Contemporary English (International Students Edition) defines the word as: [U] a strong feeling of liking and caring for someone, while our favourite online encyclopedia Wikipedia states that love is a constellation of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection or profound oneness.
Indeed, the fabled L-word is based largely on the feelings both parties in the relationship have of each other. Without feelings, nothing "coupley" can be done. It's like trying to start a fire with a wet box of matches, damp kinder and a gale-force typhoon blowing in your face. Feelings are thus the fundamental building blocks for a relationship built on love, the nucleus of a seed atom which hopefully transpires into something new, exciting and rewarding.
Love, when it comes, arrives on a chariot driven by a quartet of prized steeds, each rivaling the winged horse Pegasus in terms of speed, agility and magnificence. It just slams into you, and before you can pick up your marbles and gather your bearings, you have already fallen too far into the quagmire of affection, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some people are afraid of such a commitment, and try ways and means to get out of such a situation. They forsake the feelings and opinion of the other party in the relationship, regardless of whether or not they have officially started in the first place. The onus is on the fact that both parties are bound by an invisible, implied and understood contract of obligation right from the get-go when their feelings and instincts take control. Afterall, all of us are hardwired to find our second halves. Such scenarios often result in one party being devastated to the core, some even reaching to the extent of self-destruction, self-mortification or self-hate. The power one party wields over the other is scary, rivaling or even superseding the power of parents or authority. It is thus wise to seek the opinion of the other party before jumping to conclusions and solutions, as the method may sound good to you, but it may not be appropriate for the situation at hand. The results may not be what you have envisioned.
I read an article by Sumiko Tan in the newspapers last night, or rather this morning. She was talking about love and marriage, and I have to say I agree with her to the letter. Love is not about sex, security or sleaze, its about companionship, having someone - a very best friend - by your side 24/7. Knowing that she loves you and you love her, it colors and brings joy to your life, something that cannot be achieved with computer games, comic books or MMORPGs. We are, afterall, human.
Sure the package of love comes with a bewildering plethora of assorted paraphernalia, some downbeat, and some activist. It ultimately boils down to how the individual uses that package for the benefit of both parties, and that same package can be used to both induce pain, and to create extreme pleasure for the two primary variables in the equation of love. Guys out there reading this, please, don’t hurt your girls anymore; they don’t deserve that sort of torture. Seek their opinion, get clearance before attempting anything dire, and do not, under any circumstance coerce her to do something which you know will ultimately obliterate you both. The specter of break-up is shadowy, evil and malevolent to the very core.
Indeed.
In sum, it takes two hands to clap, likewise in a love relationship, there has to be giving before taking can commence, and when that happens you will naturally feel great about it. Why? Well, how would you feel if the girl you love returns the favour of giving by interpreting it in her own way? It is a feeling that falls short of any description by mere words, but it can be roughly described with this statement: the person you love loves you back.
Love is a narrow two-way street, you have to put yourselves into each other’s hands to make it to the end.
